(Minghui.org) My husband passed away and was unable to see our daughter get married. I moved in with her family, but it soon became clear that my son-in-law was not a good husband. He had no job, spent hours in an Internet Café, was full of excuses, and used the dowry money from the wedding to pay for his hobbies.
My daughter, also a Falun Dafa practitioner, told me she wanted to divorce him. I said, “As practitioners, we can’t think this way.”
Through studying the Fa, we realized that all misfortunes in life come from our own karma. My daughter and her husband could not have become a family if it wasn’t for a predestined relationship. We should look inward for our own attachments, and cultivate our hearts when we are treated unfairly.
I started to look at my own shortcomings. When they quarreled, I stayed out of it and kept my mouth shut. I often recited Master’s poem:
“Gong cultivation has a way, the heart is the pathDafa has no bounds, hardship serves as the ferry”(“Falun Dafa,” Hong Yin)
I let nothing bother me, and focused on taking care of my granddaughter and household chores.
After all the housework was done, I sat down with my son-in-law, and told him, “You are a father now, which gives you responsibility. To provide your daughter with a normal life, you should find a job.”
“Mother, I think I need to see a psychologist,” he replied. “I was traumatized as a child. Now I get anxious whenever I hear loud noises. I suffered from a back injury when pulling weeds in the field, so I can’t do heavy work.”
“You don’t need to see a psychologist,” I said firmly. “My pension can cover our expenses. You stay at home for now. When you have time, please often recite ‘Falun Dafa is good, Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is good.’ If you sincerely recite these words, you will benefit. When you feel better, you can try to find a job.” He agreed.
I ran into a former colleague two months later, who told me that the company was hiring and that my son-in-law should apply. I knew the recruitment manager.
My son-in-law said that he was feeling much better now and would like to apply for the job. I took him to the recruitment manager (my former colleague). He was hired. I told the manager, “Please don’t treat him as someone special. Keep him if he deserves it, fire him if he’s no good. I want to teach him to be responsible for the family.”
He was fired within three months. The day after he was dismissed, his colleague called and asked him if he knew why. He said he knew. The colleague told him not to repeat the same mistake in his next job. He said he would change.
Within a week, that colleague helped him find another job. Now, he works full-time on a contractual basis, and his back does not cause him any trouble. The whole family environment has also improved. We are all pleased given that amazing outcome.
Every time my son-in-law’s mother came to visit, he did his best to avoid her. When they did meet, he was always rude to her. When my granddaughter turned six months old, my son-in-law’s mother came to visit. She brought some quill eggs and shrimp floss for her granddaughter. Her son said impatiently, “How can a six-month-old eat these?” He left abruptly, slamming the door behind him.
I asked her to have dinner with us. With tears in her eyes, she said, “I need to take care of something at home.” Then she left.
Later, I asked my son-in-law, “Do you love your daughter?”
“Yes, I love her,” he replied, with a smile on his face.
I continued, “When you were the same age as her, your mother loved you the same way you love your daughter. Would you eat the quill eggs your mother bought?” He said he would.
I asked my daughter the same question, and she said the same as him. I said to both of them, “You are her children as much as mine. She devoted years of love and hard work to bringing you up, and now you have a family of your own. She came happily to visit her granddaughter, but you rejected her kindness with harsh words. If she gets sick from anger, how can you face your fellow villagers when you return? You are in a bad mood because you don’t have a job or get money from her, then you dumped your anger on her, didn’t you?”
He lowered his head in shame.
“Next time your mother comes,” I added, “I will buy groceries so you cook for her. You will do it won’t you?” He said he would.
When his mother came the next time, she complimented me for his improved attitude toward her.
I told her, “I was quite quarrelsome like you, always complaining. As a result, I suffered from poor health. After I began to practice Falun Dafa, I learned to follow Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance to improve my character. Dafa gave me the wisdom to see things from others’ perspectives. When I want to suggest something, I always try to find approaches that others can accept. When I talk to him in a calm and rational manner, he listens.”
Through our conversations, she began to accept Dafa as a righteous belief. She quit the Chinese Communist Party (CCP) and its youth organizations. She later helped her sister and family quit as well. I thank Master for giving me the wisdom to change myself and the people around me.