My Son Changed after I Looked Inward and Eliminated My Human Attachment
(Minghui.org) My son had been spoiled since childhood. After becoming an independent adult and entering society, his morality slide down with the rest of society. He gradually adopted many bad habits. He could not focus on his job. He stayed at Internet cafes or played mahjong for a long time after work. He did not even come home for several days. He squandered his salary and was not taking care of his family. His wife and I patiently talked with him several times; he not only failed to listen, but also threatened us with death. I asked relatives to help him and asked friends to talk to him, but nothing worked. His wife lost all hope and asked him for a divorce.
I was so anxious that I often could not eat or sleep. Some of my hair turned white and I lost a lot of weight. One day last October, I spit out a few mouthfuls of blood. My son did not show the slightest remorse and his behavior remained unchanged. I was very worried and asked myself over and over again why had he become so unreasonable and why he was torturing me. One day, I suddenly remembered one of Master Li Hongzhi's lectures. Master said:
"Do you really not understand that those unpleasant things are helping you to cultivate, remove your human thoughts, and get rid of your attachments?" ("To the European Fa Conference”)
The strength of these words suddenly struck me. Wasn't this situation with my son meant to help me get rid of my attachment of sentimentality?
From that point on, I have not been attached to my son's problems. I continue to pay attention to Fa study, doing the exercises, and sending forth righteous thoughts during the day. I also participate in group study. I often go out with fellow practitioners to clarify the truth of Falun Gong and help persuade people to quit the Chinese Communist Party (CCP) and its affiliated organizations. At night I watch a Shen Yun DVD or sometimes listen to Master's recorded lectures. I spend all my time on the important things.
I let go of my attachment to my son, and he, in turn, has given up his bad habits. He puts his energy instead into his work, and he goes home after work. He often takes his child to school and helps him with his homework. He takes care of difficult problems at home. He gives his salary and bonuses to his wife to manage and does not waste money anymore. He also takes care of me. We have a happy family.
My son's dramatic change of behavior made me realize that nothing Dafa practitioners encounter is accidental. Any problem is caused by what is in our heart. Only when we have strong faith in Master and the Fa, cultivate diligently, and do well with the three things can we can catch up with the Fa-rectification process and not disappoint Master, who has mercifully labored to save us.