(Minghui.org) My daughter-in-law and her mother were instrumental in the improvement of my cultivation state.
Her mother told her daughter that she was too tired to look after her child any longer. Thus, I was asked that I take care of her child during the day and I agreed.
Never Ending Demands
I bought food and clothes for both my granddaughter and daughter-in-law. At times, I paid for many of their expenses, such as medication, water, electricity, and heating bills. My daughter-in-law also asked me to buy insurance for my granddaughter, which cost me 10,000 yuan for the year.
Even though I helped to that extent, my daughter-in-law and her mother were unhappy with me.
There were never ending demands for more than a year, yet, the two were still not satisfied. Sometimes, they spoke to me in an abrupt tone. My son also held a bad attitude against me and his father.
My daughter-in-law is the only daughter. Before her marriage, the mother promised a dowry of 100,000 yuan. Then, after they got married, she lowered it to 50,000 yuan, and in the end she did not give a single penny.
On their wedding day, the mother put a savings account book into her daughter's belt. My daughter-in-law was so pleased that she showed my son the money in the savings account. Looking at it closely, there was only 10 yuan in the account. She then started to cry.
This mother has nearly a million yuan in savings, and her monthly income is about 8,000 yuan more than ours. The two, mother and daughter often fight with each other.
My granddaughter cannot speak. If she wets her pants, my daughter-in-law’s mother makes some scathing remark when she is in a good mood and beats the child when she is in bad mood.
My mind wondered why all these unpleasantness happened. I felt so wronged, that I ignored them both and my heart and body were tired.
Cultivation State
A fellow practitioner once asked me about my cultivation state. I was very surprised, calmed down and began to think about it.
I realized that during the past year, I slacked off in my cultivation practice. I was so tired that I took a nap at any free moment. I did not spend much time studying the Fa and failed to concentrate when I was studying the Fa.
The thought that I would have more time to study the Fa when my granddaughter goes into nursery school entered my mind often. I was absent-minded when I sent forth righteous thoughts. How could I do the three things well? Every day, I was thinking about my granddaughter and how I could make my son, daughter-in-law, and her mother happy. I was acting like an everyday person. I put these family members in a position that is more important than Dafa.
Master said:
“Why do you encounter these problems? They are all caused by your own karma. We have already eliminated for you many, numerous pieces of it, leaving only that tiny bit which is divided into tribulations at different levels for upgrading your xinxing, tempering your mind, and removing your different attachments. These are all your own tribulations that we use to improve your xinxing, and you will be able to overcome them. As long as you upgrade your xinxing, you can overcome them. Unless you, yourself do not want to do so, you can make it, provided you want to overcome them.” (Zhuan Falun)
Putting Dafa First
Everything around us exists for our cultivation. A good or bad family environment is directly related to our cultivation state. As a genuine Falun Dafa practitioner, I should put Dafa first.
From then on, I got up early and slept less. While doing housework, I listened to fellow practitioners’ experience sharing. I studied the Fa in a Fa-study group every evening.
In the Fa-study group, I often found my attachments. I always think of myself as a Dafa practitioner, and when I send forth righteous thoughts I say, “Clear out all evil factors within my dimensional field and my body and eliminate all interference from the old forces.”
I leaped out of the ordinary people's state and restored my cultivation state. I especially let go of the attachment of feeling wronged. My daughter-in-law and her mother have also changed their attitude toward me.
My daughter-in-law changed her job, and has time to look after her child for half a day. Her mother supports my attending the Fa-study group every evening. On my birthday or Mother’s Day, my daughter-in-law gives me a present. My son has also begun to care for us. In short, everything has turned for the better.
Category: Improving Oneself
