Looking After the Family With the Fa in My Mind
(Minghui.org) My cultivation in Falun Dafa has helped me change from being a selfish person to a thoughtful one – something millions of other Falun Dafa practitioners have experienced.
After my husband and I married, feelings of resentment soon surfaced. My husband enjoyed playing mahjong, and paid little attention to anything else.
At home, I took care of everything, including our elderly parents and children. Sometimes, when my husband returned home very late, I wouldn't let him sleep. I woke him up after he started dozing off. We fought a lot, and I really didn't want to live with him anymore. I felt we were different types of people.
Someone gave me a copy of Zhuan Falun in 1998. After reading it, I felt that I had found a hidden treasure, and immediately started practicing Falun Dafa. I study the Fa and cultivate my xinxing every day.
“The altercations or mistreatment that you encounter as you practice might be either of two scenarios. One is that you mistreated the other person during a past life. Perhaps the situation preys on your mind, and you can’t believe someone would treat you as they are. Well, then you shouldn’t have treated them that way in the past. You might say that you didn’t know better back then and that this lifetime has nothing to do with that one. But you can’t write it off like that.” (The Fourth Talk, Zhuan Falun)
Once I understood why our relationship was the way it was, I changed my attitude toward my husband. I became more thoughtful, improved my xinxing, and no longer fought with him. He must have felt my change, as he soon changed his bad habits, and started doing some household chores.
When my mother-in-law developed dementia and couldn't take care of herself, I washed her clothes, prepared dinner, and fed her. One day, my father-in-law saw that I was working hard, so he tried to help and washed his wife's clothes.
After I returned home from work, he said, “I only washed her pants this time and felt disgusted. You have worked on this for so long but never complain. How do you do it?”
Although my mother-in-law had dementia, she still recognized my kindness. When she saw me working so hard, she also cared about me. She often talked to our neighbors. I heard her once say, “Since my daughter-in-law started to practice Falun Dafa, she has treated me so well. Better than my own daughters.”
Father-in-Law's Liver Cancer
After my mother-in-law passed away, my father-in-law developed liver cancer. I told him to recite, “Falun Dafa is good, Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is good.”
One of his grandsons is a doctor and prepares painkillers, for the extreme pain associated with late-stage liver cancer. However, even though my father-in-law developed abdominal swelling and needed the fluid to be removed periodically, he didn't feel pain at all. He didn't use any painkillers, and eventually passed away. I think his suffering was lessened because he believed Falun Dafa is good.
Taking Care of My Uncle
I had an uncle who was in his seventies. In November 2018, he became paralyzed. I have two granddaughters I take care of. During the day, my granddaughters are at child care so I took care of my uncle.
He was a vegetarian for most of his life, but after he became ill he wanted to eat meat. Sometimes, if the meat he wanted wasn't available in our local market, I had to take a bus to another city to get it for him.
I had to change his urine pad every day. Sometimes the pad contained feces and urine. Right after I fed him one time, I smelled a strong odor. I lifted the blanket and saw that he was covered in feces, from his chest to his feet. It was all over the blanket as well. I couldn't control my temper, and snapped at him, “Why did you make all this mess? How can I clean it all up?”
I went to get some water to wash my uncle, and realized that I was not being compassionate toward him. He hadn't done this intentionally. He was bedridden and was already in pain. How could I get cross with him? I immediately corrected my thinking.
“Things will work out well if you are always compassionate and good to others, thoughtful towards people, and handle whatever situations you get into with people by first pausing to consider how well your actions will go over with the other party and whether anyone will be hurt by them. You should hold yourself to high standards and raise the bar still further as you practice.” (The Fourth Talk, Zhuan Falun)
Every day, I felt overwhelmed by the strong smell of feces. When I felt life was tiresome, I would think of Master's Fa and consider bitterness as happiness.
I asked my uncle to recite “Falun Dafa is good.” He did, and didn't feel any discomfort or pain when he passed away three months later. He passed away peacefully.
During those few months, I took care of my uncle during the day and my granddaughters at night. Most of the time I only slept three to four hours a night, but didn't feel tired at all.
When my friends asked me why I don't feel pressure looking after the kids and my uncle, I told them that it was because I practice Falun Dafa.
People Protect Me
Falun Dafa makes me healthy, teaches me to be compassionate and thoughtful, and I am always energetic. It is Dafa that makes my family so harmonious.
Master told us to be good people wherever we are. I used to work at an employee dormitory before I retired. Falun Dafa was being persecuted, so my company management assigned a person to monitor me, and didn't allow me to study the Fa, or talk about Dafa in the workplace.
After some time of spending time with me, the person monitoring me eventually told the company management angrily, “You said Falun Dafa was not good. In our department, it is a Falun Dafa practitioner who does the best work.”
The security officer in our company didn't know the truth about Dafa and told my supervisor that if three people stated that they saw me studying the Fa, I would be sent to prison. My supervisor and coworkers didn't report on me, and the supervisor even told me to be careful.
I require a high standard of myself, and actively do the work that is the dirtiest and most tiresome. I don't complain about anything, but instead show the beauty of Falun Dafa.
It is Dafa that has completely changed me, and makes me understand the meaning of life. I will be more diligent, and not disappoint Master.